reconnecting with my 5 year old daughter

A date with my daughter – Re Bonding with my 5 year old


It has been a rough 9 months in India. Full of ups and downs, culture shock, new schools and settling in (after how many moves?) Tonight my daughter really wanted to see her friends after having to stay in yesterday (she ran out of the elevator when with my husband to go to school, which is a huge danger issues since the elevator actually did CLOSE without her), so after decorating our live Charlie Brown Christmas tree a bit, we headed down to see her friends.

Well we got there and they were playing a game that she didn’t understand. It turned out they didn’t either since the game was somewhat like hide and seek with all kids running together… and the seeker didn’t know he was supposed to be seeking. Since we needed milk, I had planned to grab milk from the nearby store and my daughter decided to come along. On the way, I asked her if she wanted to make it a date.

Date night = Bonding with 5 year old

Her face lit up and she said, “I thought that was for mommies and daddies.”

Nope. It isn’t- it is for two people to reconnect.

“We can go on a date too, we need some you and me time too, right?” I replied.

We got our milk. We didn’t argue. We went to the coffee shop (D’Crepes) and she had applie pie and I had an americano with a splash of milk. At 8-something pm, but it didn’t matter. The point was we were able to reconnect.

I definitely think it is something we need to do again. Next time, it will be planned. No phones, no distractions. Just us. Talking and reconnecting.

A few thoughts from the mouth of my 5 year old:

Why don’t they show people going potty in movies?

After reading a Christmas book, she asked, “Who was Jesus’ mom?” I said, “Mary.”

Like Mary had a little lamb?

Nope. But I can see the connection. Mary had a little lamb. At Mass, we hear “Lamb of God… you take away the sin of the world…”

Anyway, sometimes we need these times to reconnect, listen and be.

Thank you V for teaching me again to relax.

It was also beneficial that my husband was dialing the wrong number to have me come home… while my son did want me back, I think my daughter NEEDED that time with me.

Bonding with 5 year old shouldn’t be so hard.

(The book we were reading’s affiliate link is below.)

When was the last time you took a child out for a date?

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  1. I love this! While I have not been blessed yet to have any children, I am very attached to my niece. She will bring me books and point at things and babble (she’s a 1.5 years) and i can tell she connects with me when we are reading together. I love it!

  2. I can totally relate! My 8 year old daughter and I are needing a date night soon. It’s so easy to get busy with work, school, siblings and life in general. Sometimes it’s nice to disconnect from technology and reconnect with our kids one on one.

  3. It’s so hard sometimes to get that precious one on one time with your kids. Especially since day to day can be so chaotic.

  4. we haven’t done a date with kids in a while, but I am a firm believer that it is so helpful and important! We need to get back into the routine of doing this with our kids! It means the world to them and really improved their behavior too!

  5. I spend one on one time with my kids at least once a month if at all possible. My kids look forward to their date times with me with a great passion. It definitely helps keep the bond alive.

    Glad to hear that you and your daughter had a good day.

  6. I’m so glad you were able to do this after all the chaos of adjusting to life in a very new place. I completely agree that a date doesn’t have to be romantic in nature; it can be just an outing that helps two people reconnect. Sharing a fun Christmas story and coffee (well, milk- lol) is the perfect way to do it! :)

  7. A date with your child IS very important and I’m glad you got to have one with your daughter. It’s simple moments we can spend with our kids but they really do matter. Thanks for the book suggestions also.

  8. Take advantage of those moments while you can. I love that she thought o fMary had a little lamb! I used to do date night once a week with my son and then a day trip once a month where phones were not allowed, it is some of my favorite memories.

  9. I love this post. I have been trying to start a tradition of having a monthly date with each one of our sons. We get so busy with work and school that I want to have that quality time with each one of them.

  10. I have a 5 year old daughter, and I’d love to take her out, just the two of us. I can’t drive right now, but once I’m back to normal, we’ll definitely plan a date.

  11. This is so sweet. I need to take my 5 yr old out. Since having her little brother 2 years ago we rarely get time just the 2 of us. I may do this in the upcoming week with my husband being home for the holiday. She’ll love it!


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