(International) moves are like divorce – you lose everything and get worse stuff each time.
That was said to us by the owner of our daughter’s former school, as he advised us to reconsider our international move to India. He had moved from Poland to some place to South Africa to Chicago to Phoenix.
It isn’t just the stuff we’re missing, but consistency. As just about any parent will tell you, consistency and expectations are key to a smooth day. I mean even non-parents can probably tell the difference between what would happen when you know what to expect and can let your kids know and what would happen if everything is continually up in the air.
Originally, the plan was to have our stuff packed and have us out of our house the week of February 24th, with a move in mid-March and a start date for my husband of April 1 and our stuff arriving within a few weeks of his start.
And we waited for the move to India to come to fruition
Well, due to lack of approvals of our move quotes (and a request for an extra, that we clearly advised would cause delay), our stuff wasn’t packed until March 22ndish, we left the 28th, arrived the 30th and obviously my husband didn’t start work the day after Easter. Instead, he started April 15. When we arrived we found out our stay at the guest house was only until April 28. Well one month would have been fine had they moved our stuff when we asked them, but they didn’t. Add to that, a 4 week delay due to customs (that is paid for by “us” or the company, thanks for the delay and charge US government!), we learned our stuff was finally put on a ship this past Sunday. Now we have an extra two or maybe 3 months until our stuff arrives in India. Then we have to wait until customs clears our things and have it delivered.
Guess what we were told today!
Our stay here won’t be extended.
They may put us into another one, increasing my husband’s commute, after an already 9+ hour day, 6 days a week.
Plus, our maid that we thought we had since December has decided she doesn’t want to work.
A back up one is asking way more than the going price for one who doesn’t also tutor.
We still don’t have a car (to finance through the company, which saves taxes, we need three separate quotes).
Which means we also don’t have a driver.
Which means I have very few places I can go alone.
We may get a one week extension here, but what after that? We have not a lot of stuff here! I mean, we left a few items of clothes and some books on prior visits, but otherwise, THIS is what we came with.
That’s our clothes, documents, diapers, etc.
So yes, you can see why, at the height of culture shock, and general annoyances, I’m wondering WHY did we do this again?
This new guest house – will it have security like we have now? Will it be clean? Will it be accessible? Will it have a pool or gym or play ground? Will we have to have a roommate there too?
We’ll likely need to move in early June or find a new school for the kids. Our move would be without furniture, but we’d have to figure it out because that back up guest house is extremely far from the school.
Disenchantment, whether it is a minor disappointment or a major shock, is the signal that things are moving into transition in our lives.
Where does this leave us? An unsold home (we didn’t expect it to be immediate but now we’re wondering how long it’ll be), our couches, beds, pots and pans, clothing, photos and other belongings in the middle of an ocean, and our minds confused.
Please say a special prayer, send us some positive vibes and hope for some resolution.