Child care for an attached family
|Making a child care decision can be daunting.|
Yes, I was a working attachment parenting mom. While many believe attachment parenting is only for families with a SAHM, that isn’t the case. The tenets of attachment parenting mean that working moms probably “need” to be more attached than not so that the time spent together IS meaningful. But making the child care decision can be a tough one.
As an attached mom and a selective-vaccinating family, regular day care just doesn’t work for us. I don’t like the potential issues with behaviors from other kids, illnesses (and what do you do when your kids are sick FROM daycare?) And, I like to know how AND decide exactly how my kids are being disciplined.
- We shy away from bribery (when we can, at times… we do what we gotta do)
- We don’t like rewards for basic things (no M&Ms; for going poop, no stickers for allowing us to comb hair), and
- We don’t like the food choices at most daycare/preschools
When we just had our daughter we went through a gamut of nannies. Some good, some not so good. But we went through a few and it just didn’t seem to be the right fit. When we started calculating costs for child care for two kids, there was just no way we could pass up the cost and flexibility of hosting an au pair. For the past 18 months we’ve hosted from Germany. We’ve had ups and downs, but mostly ups and we get to continue with OUR parenting choices. Plus, we can build date nights into the 45 hours alloted for each week
If you or someone you know is looking for flexible, live-in care, you may want to consider an au pair. Plus this weekend, there are some savings that I’m sure you’d be interested in. For around $8.00/hr (at 45 hours per week), you can have your own customized child care. Hosting isn’t for everyone, it is a relationship you’re building when you welcome someone into your home. As a host parent myself, I can definitely help families know what it is they’re looking for when interviewing.