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I cheated on my daughter – Lullaby for kids

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You know that mom guilt feeling where you feel so utterly horrible but at the same time you’re not sure what, if anything, you could have done differently for your child? In this instance, it is a case of a feel of “I cheated on my daughter” – all over a lullaby for kids.

Lullaby for kids

Like most moms, I sing lullabies at times to get my kiddos to sleep – sometimes just because as well. When my son, R, was around a year old, my then 3 year old got upset. She told me, “momma, you said I am your sunshine.” You see,

You are my sunshine

My only sunshine

You make me happy….

Only is an absolute. So my daughter didn’t like that I sang that song to her brother as well, and she felt upset.

Well around a year and a half ago my daughter was stung by a scorpion and I sang some songs in the hospital to her. After we were in her room and I was out of songs and I came up with a non-lullaby to sing to her. The song was the 1988 hit song, “Eternal Flame” by the Bangles.

Eternal Flame Lyrics

Close your eyes, give me your hand, darlin’
Do you feel my heart beating
Do you understand
Do you feel the same
Am I only dreaming
Is this burning an eternal flame

I believe it’s meant to be, darlin’
I watch you when you are sleeping
You belong with me
Do you feel the same
Am I only dreaming
Or is this burning an eternal flame

Say my name
Sun shines through the rain
A whole life so lonely
And then come and ease the pain
I don’t want to lose this feeling, oh

Say my name
Sun shines through the rain
A whole life so lonely
And then come and ease the pain
I don’t want to lose this feeling, oh

Close your eyes, give me your hand
Do you feel my heart beating
Do you understand
Do you feel the same
Am I only dreaming
Or is this burning an eternal flame

Close your eyes, give me your hand, darlin’
Do you feel my heart beating
Do you understand
Do you feel the same
Am I only dreaming
Is this burning an eternal flame

Close your eyes, give me your hand, darlin’
Do you feel my heart beating
Do you understand
Do you feel the same
Am I only dreaming, ah
An eternal flame

Close your eyes, give me your hand, darlin’
Do you feel my heart beating
Do you understand
Do you feel the same
Am I only dreaming, ah
Is this burning an eternal flame

My daughter loved that song. She even asked, “mom why didn’t you sing that song to me at the hospital?”  Thus, that became our song.

Well this past week, her knees were hurting at night and I started singing that song to her as I massaged her legs. Well, she got upset. Why? Apparently one night I sang it to my son and she was upset. I am very happy she told me her feelings, but honestly now I’m just really out of songs to sing her that I know I haven’t sung to my son.

What lullaby for kids or ballad out there can you think of? Please give a few so I can give them a try for a new “just us” song for me and V.

Potential Songs to sing to a kiddo include great lullabies like what?

 

 

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25 comments

  1. This post is so sweet and I love how intentional you are in making your children feel special. I think that these moments can be great teachable moments to gently explain how your heart stretches bigger than you ever imagined with love for all of your children. And a special song…in that moment doesn’t mean any less because it was sung to her brother as well.

     
  2. Oh I wish I could help you, but I don’t have kids and my mom was not singing me lullabies, in our country the fashion was more to tell stories or to read them to us. I loved those old times…

     
  3. I have no children and my Mom can not sing to this day (she really can not carry a note and knows it-but she does not care!) She probably sang to me when I was a baby–Rock a Bye Baby (on the tree top)–luckily I didn’t realize she was singing to me about me falling from a tree top!)–Maybe you could google lullaby’s and find one that is one you have never sung before? There is a popular song about how proud a Daddy is that he has a daughter and how beautiful she is-of course I can’t remember the title or the singer at the moment—–

     
  4. Susan Vega Night Vision! This was a favorite in our house. Baby Mine from Dumbo was another. Truly Scrumptious from Chitty Chitty Bang Bang would be really good because it says “you TWO are truly scrumptious! Hushabye is good from Chitty Chitty also. Oh, and we all loved stay awake and was a great lesson in reverse psychology.

     
  5. Oh my goodness …. poor YOU! I feel your pain because no matter how hard we try as moms, there will always be that “Mommy guilt” just waiting to jump us at any given moment. Don’t listen to those lies …. you KNOW in your heart the kind of mom you are so recognize the guilt as a lie and move forward … remembering all the sacrifices you make for your kids every day in an effort to raise them to the best of your ability! :)

     
  6. It is funny how kids get so jealous at times. I have 4 kids and the 2 older are 2 years apart and the 2 younger are almost 2 years apart and I never ran into the jealous issue with each other over special songs or me spending time with one over the other. I cannot think of any songs that you can have just for her. Maybe you can google lullaby’s and find a nice one that will make her feel special.

     
  7. What a beautiful post and wonderful sings to go with it. We sang the standard nursery lullabies when my twins were little. As the got a little older, we made up our own songs and always made sure thy were funny… I love that special time we spend with our kids… TY!
    Elizabeth

     
  8. Oops corrections! :-)

    What a beautiful post and wonderful songs to go with it. We sang the standard nursery lullabies when my twins were little. As they got a little older, we made up our own songs and always made sure they were funny… I love that special time we spend with our kids… TY! :-)
    Elizabeth

     
  9. My daughter is Miss V, too :) I have sung that song to all three of my children, too. My middle son did have a moment the first time he heard me singing it to his little sister, but rationalized it by saying he was my “only boy sunshine” and V was my “only girl sunshine”.

     
  10. My son was very upset when his baby cousin came to stay with us when he was little and I sang him Somewhere Over the Rainbow… He hasn’t let me sing it since and if he hears me sing it he gets mad. That was his song and now I’ve ruined it.

     
  11. My parents both had their own special songs for me, so it was only natural for me to want to have a special song for my son. I sing ‘Close to You’ by the Carpenters to him, and have made up my own songs, as well.

     
  12. So sweet of you. I always sing a good night song for my son. My favorite is “Power of Two”. But son is a little different since he loves songs like “Roar”, “Just Give Me a Reason” and other hit songs of today. He loves to sing those while we are on bed and about to sleep. I find it cute though, he’s just 3.

     
  13. Little ones are so smart! I love their black-and-white perspectives that are untainted by difficult adult decisions. I LOVE that you sang the Bangles song to your daughter. I’ve heard the song many times but never thought of it as a song to my children. Beautiful.

     
  14. I often times take songs and personalize the lyrics for each of my kids, same melody but special for each one. You could try that!

     
  15. What a small world! I, too sing “Eternal Flame” to my baby – who was born three months premature. I also like to sing “If I Needed You,” by Townes Van Zandt.

     
  16. Aww – as parents, it’s tough to predict how our kids feel about certain things. I would have never thought about the “only” sunshine line – your daughter is very bright! I love to sing the song from the book “I’ll Love You Forever.” My mom used to sing it to me, and now I sing it to my daughter. I also make up songs. I sing my feelings to her and it just sticks, creating a new lullaby for her.

     

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